Grieving Over Finances Until Isolation Becomes a Problem

As part of the series on the article, Stages of Grief Contrasted with the Bankruptcy Process, this third article is about grieving over finances until isolation becomes an unhealthy problem somewhere during of after the bankruptcy process.


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Isolation in the Grief Process

The stage of Isolation can occur in the grief process when the one grieving over their sudden loss of a loved one wants to be alone and apart from family and friends.

Isolating yourself after losing a close loved one is normal because it is natural for you to want to be alone to have time to collect your thoughts, understand what has just happened to you, and understand how the loss will effect your future.

All of us need a certain amount of time without others around to clutter our thinking process. The length of time this takes is handled differently by each person.

Although you need time in order to work things out with your emotions and feelings concerning your loss, you can spend too much time in isolation to the point such behavior could become physically and mentally unhealthy for you. If isolation continues for any length of abnormal time, it is not uncommon for the one who is grieving to remain alone in a dark house, cry a lot, experience sleepless nights, eat poorly, and manifest a variety of other symptoms of isolation. When this happens, stress, weight loss, delusions, fear, and a host of other physical and mental maladies can occur. Any of these maladies can be unhealthy.

The institutions of church, family, and community provide you with excellent support in helping you go through the grieving stage of isolation. Out of love and concern, Ministers, family, church members, and friends may frequently drop by to see you when you most want to be alone, but these visits can serve as healthy reminders that life goes on, you are still loved, and it is time to think about moving forward with your life.

Isolation in the Bankruptcy Process

In contrast to the grief process, you can also experience physical and mental problems during or after suddenly finding yourself without your means of financial support. Many who have experienced bankruptcy have reported in online forums that during the bankruptcy process, they were afraid to tell their closest friends and family about their situation. Their embarrassment and shame caused them to experience a stage of isolation from their closest allies.

Most all of the the former debtors in these personal bankruptcy stories emphasized they felt stressed, fear, shame, embarrassment, and variety of physical ailments. The longer they remained in isolation, the more physical and emotional symptoms they showed. When they shared their stories to their support group, the symptoms subsided. It was a source of relief. The longer you remain in the isolation during or after bankruptcy, the more it can be very unhealthy for you.

You really don’t have to isolate yourself during or after bankruptcy. The institutions of the U.S. Bankruptcy Court System, family, and community can provide you with a source of support during and after a bankruptcy. Trusted friends, family, and especially bankruptcy lawyers from these institutions can provide the service of helping you through the bankruptcy process. The sooner you realize the reality you might need help through the process of bankruptcy, the sooner you will be able to financially start over and live a healthy prosperous life again.

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